خبر أزفّه إلى صديقى الذي رفضته من طلبها للزواج بعد صبر طويل بحجة أنه كبير قائلة له: «راحت عليك، رِجل في الدنيا ورِجل في الآخرة». يقول الخبر: بعد أن تجاوزت السبعين قررت المخرجة السينمائية إيناس الدغيدي الزواج من رجل أعمال يقاربها عمراً بفرح وزفّة وطبل وغناء، آمنت أن الحياة ليست زمناً يمرّ، ولا رقماً يُعد، بل طاقة تتجدّد، ونبض يتّسع كلما ضاقت قلوب المتشائمين.
العمر لا يقاس بالسنوات التي عبرت، وإنما بالقدرة على استعادة الدهشة، وتبنّي الفرح، والتصالح مع الذات في كل مرحلة عمرية للإنسان.
زواجها ليس مجرد حدث شخصي، بل رسالة بليغة لكل ذكر وأنثى ضد الخوف والتردد، وأن الأمل لا يشيخ، والعمر مجرد رقم لا يختزل جوهر الإنسان.
قالت بفعلها أكثر مما قالته الكلمات «السعادة قرار، والتجديد شجاعة، والحياة لا تُختصر في قيود الزمن».
الإنسان متى وجد الفرصة فلا يتردد في أي مرحلة أن يهزم اليأس وينتصر للبهجة ويرتبط بمن أحب، فليست كل العلل تعالج بالدواء، علاجها الاهتمام والمحبة، والدعم النفسي و المساندة.
يقول سقراط: أفضل علاج للإنسان هو الحب، قيل: وإذا لم يفلح؟ قال: زِد الجرعة.
خطوة الدغيدي تحدٍ صارخ لليأس والإحباط، جعلت من حياتها ساحة للفرح والاحتفاء بالوجود، لم تسمح لصوت المجتمع أن يخطف حقها في الفرح، أو يكسرها، ولم تخضع لسطوة التقاليد التي تهمس بأن الحب والزواج للشباب، فالقلب حين يظل مفتوحاً للحب لا تهزمه سنوات العمر، والشجاعة ليست موقفاً عابراً، بل مسار حياة. عزيمتها منحتها القدرة على مواجهة النقد والتنمر، وحقها في اختيار حياتها كما تشاء، وقناعتها بأن السعادة تستحق المحاولة كل يوم، وأن أصوات السخرية تعبّر عن فقر داخلي وجهل بالحياة وجفاف في العاطفة.
ظنوا جهلاً أن العمر قيد، وأن الحب سلوك مرفوض بعد مرحلة معينة، يُظهرون عجزهم عن فهم جوهر الإنسان وكينونته. هم أسرى لثقافة سطحية تحصر المرأة والرجل في شباب الجسد، وتتجاهل أن الروح لا تهرم، وأن الفرح لا يرتبط إلا بالقدرة على العطاء والتجديد.
التنمر والسخرية ليسا إلا انعكاساً لعقول عاجزة عن إدراك أن من يملك الشجاعة لصنع فرحته هو الأقوى، ومن يحاول انتزاع الفرح من الآخرين هو الأضعف.
يقول غابرييل غارثيا الحاصل على «نوبل»: «الحب هو أن نحب في أي وقت وفي أي مكان. والحب يكون أكثر زخماً كلما اقتربنا من الموت».
سرّ فرادة التجربة لا يكمن في الزواج ذاته، وإنما شجاعة اتخاذ القرار.
كثيرون حائرون مترددون خائفون مهزومون بالخوف، رغم أن الزواج عباده شُرعت لنا في الدنيا وتستمر معنا حتى في الآخرة.
إيناس بفعلتها هذه حوّلت لحظتها الخاصة إلى إلهام عام لنا بأن الحياة لا تُختزل في زمن، بل تتسع لكل من امتلك الجرأة على التجديد وكتب لنفسه عمراً جديداً.
بدلاً من أن نُسلم أعمارنا لليأس والمرض، ننتصر للبهجة ونرتبط بمن نحب. هنا تتجلى إرادة الإنسان وقدرته بأن يمزج حبه بالإرادة والشجاعة والقرار ليصوغ رواية جديدة تقول: الحياة تُعاش أكثر من مرة متى ما آمنّا أن السعادة ممكنة في كل لحظة، وأن الفرح لا يتقاعد، وأن الحياة المتجدّدة قادرة على أن تمنحنا فصولاً أخرى من السعادة، وأن قانون «ايش يقولوا الناس» قانون ظالم لا ينجح في سرقة الفرح إلا من القلوب الضعيفة، أما القلوب المؤمنة بالحب، فتبقى عصيّة على الانكسار.
يقول دوستويفسكي إذا أردت أن تعيد إنساناً للحياة ضع في طريقه إنساناً يحبه، إنساناً يؤمن به، فالعقاقير وحدها لا تكفي.
المستقبل يحمل لنا وعداً أجمل لحياة أفضل. العلم جدّد الخلايا المعطوبة بالخلايا الجذعية، والأعضاء المضروبة التى لا تؤدي دورها يزرع غيرها، وهذا لا يتأتى مع نفس مثقلة بالهموم تعيش الحرمان وتعاني الوحدة.
اختراعات تترى لتأخير الشيخوخة تمنح الإنسان قدرة متجدّدة وروحاً متوقدة.
تلتقي العزيمة الإنسانية مع العلم الحديث، في معركة واحدة ضد الموت البطيء، وعيش جودة الحياة، ومحاربة اليأس، واستدعاء الأمل، وتجديد المشاعر هي بمثابة «زراعة روح جديدة» تتطلب من يرويها.
إيناس الدغيدي، بجرأتها وإصرارها، جسّدت ما يحاول العلم أن يحقّقه بمعادلاته الدقيقة؛ أن الحياة قابلة للتجديد، وأن الفرح لا يُختصر في مرحلة، وأن الإنسان أقوى من قيود العمر حين يؤمن بنفسه وبمن يحب.
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A piece of news I share with my friend who rejected a marriage proposal after a long wait, claiming he was too old, saying to him: “You missed your chance, one foot in this world and one in the hereafter.” The news states: After surpassing seventy, filmmaker Inas El-Degheidy decided to marry a businessman close to her age with joy, a wedding procession, drums, and singing. She believed that life is not merely a passage of time, nor a number to count, but rather an energy that renews itself, and a pulse that expands as the hearts of pessimists constrict.
Age is not measured by the years that have passed, but by the ability to regain wonder, embrace joy, and reconcile with oneself at every stage of human life.
Her marriage is not just a personal event, but a powerful message to every man and woman against fear and hesitation, that hope does not age, and that age is merely a number that does not diminish the essence of a person.
She said through her actions more than her words: “Happiness is a decision, renewal is courage, and life cannot be confined by the constraints of time.”
Whenever a person finds the opportunity, they should not hesitate at any stage to defeat despair, champion joy, and connect with those they love. Not all ailments are treated with medicine; their remedy is care, love, psychological support, and assistance.
Socrates said: The best remedy for a person is love. It was asked: And if it doesn’t work? He replied: Increase the dose.
El-Degheidy’s step is a bold challenge to despair and frustration, turning her life into a celebration of joy and existence. She did not allow society's voice to steal her right to happiness or break her, nor did she submit to the dominance of traditions that whisper that love and marriage are for the young. For when the heart remains open to love, it is not defeated by the years of age, and courage is not a fleeting stance, but a way of life. Her determination granted her the ability to face criticism and bullying, her right to choose her life as she wishes, and her conviction that happiness is worth pursuing every day, and that mocking voices reflect an internal poverty, ignorance of life, and emotional dryness.
They foolishly believed that age is a constraint, and that love is an unacceptable behavior after a certain stage, revealing their inability to understand the essence of a person and their being. They are prisoners of a superficial culture that confines women and men to youthful bodies, ignoring that the spirit does not age, and that joy is only linked to the ability to give and renew.
Bullying and mockery are merely reflections of minds incapable of realizing that those who have the courage to create their own joy are the strongest, while those who attempt to snatch joy from others are the weakest.
Gabriel Garcia Marquez, the Nobel laureate, said: “Love is to love at any time and in any place. Love is more intense the closer we get to death.”
The secret of the uniqueness of the experience lies not in the marriage itself, but in the courage to make the decision.
Many are confused, hesitant, fearful, and defeated by fear, even though marriage is a worship that has been ordained for us in this world and continues with us even in the hereafter.
Through her actions, Inas transformed her personal moment into a general inspiration for us that life is not confined to time, but expands for anyone who has the courage to renew and writes a new age for themselves.
Instead of surrendering our lives to despair and illness, we champion joy and connect with those we love. Here, the will of a person and their ability to blend love with will, courage, and decision manifest, crafting a new narrative that says: Life is lived more than once whenever we believe that happiness is possible in every moment, that joy does not retire, and that a renewed life can grant us other seasons of happiness, and that the law of “what will people say” is an unjust law that only succeeds in stealing joy from weak hearts. As for hearts that believe in love, they remain resilient against breaking.
Dostoevsky said: If you want to bring a person back to life, place in their path someone who loves them, someone who believes in them, for drugs alone are not enough.
The future holds a more beautiful promise for a better life. Science has renewed damaged cells with stem cells, and injured organs that do not perform their role are replaced with others, and this cannot happen with a soul burdened by worries, living in deprivation, and suffering from loneliness.
Inventions continue to emerge to delay aging, granting humans renewed abilities and a vibrant spirit.
Human determination meets modern science in a single battle against slow death, living a quality life, fighting despair, invoking hope, and renewing feelings, which is akin to “planting a new spirit” that requires someone to nurture it.
Inas El-Degheidy, with her boldness and determination, embodied what science attempts to achieve with its precise equations: that life is renewable, that joy is not confined to a stage, and that a person is stronger than the constraints of age when they believe in themselves and in those they love.
Do not leave it within yourself... act on it and trust in God.
Age is not measured by the years that have passed, but by the ability to regain wonder, embrace joy, and reconcile with oneself at every stage of human life.
Her marriage is not just a personal event, but a powerful message to every man and woman against fear and hesitation, that hope does not age, and that age is merely a number that does not diminish the essence of a person.
She said through her actions more than her words: “Happiness is a decision, renewal is courage, and life cannot be confined by the constraints of time.”
Whenever a person finds the opportunity, they should not hesitate at any stage to defeat despair, champion joy, and connect with those they love. Not all ailments are treated with medicine; their remedy is care, love, psychological support, and assistance.
Socrates said: The best remedy for a person is love. It was asked: And if it doesn’t work? He replied: Increase the dose.
El-Degheidy’s step is a bold challenge to despair and frustration, turning her life into a celebration of joy and existence. She did not allow society's voice to steal her right to happiness or break her, nor did she submit to the dominance of traditions that whisper that love and marriage are for the young. For when the heart remains open to love, it is not defeated by the years of age, and courage is not a fleeting stance, but a way of life. Her determination granted her the ability to face criticism and bullying, her right to choose her life as she wishes, and her conviction that happiness is worth pursuing every day, and that mocking voices reflect an internal poverty, ignorance of life, and emotional dryness.
They foolishly believed that age is a constraint, and that love is an unacceptable behavior after a certain stage, revealing their inability to understand the essence of a person and their being. They are prisoners of a superficial culture that confines women and men to youthful bodies, ignoring that the spirit does not age, and that joy is only linked to the ability to give and renew.
Bullying and mockery are merely reflections of minds incapable of realizing that those who have the courage to create their own joy are the strongest, while those who attempt to snatch joy from others are the weakest.
Gabriel Garcia Marquez, the Nobel laureate, said: “Love is to love at any time and in any place. Love is more intense the closer we get to death.”
The secret of the uniqueness of the experience lies not in the marriage itself, but in the courage to make the decision.
Many are confused, hesitant, fearful, and defeated by fear, even though marriage is a worship that has been ordained for us in this world and continues with us even in the hereafter.
Through her actions, Inas transformed her personal moment into a general inspiration for us that life is not confined to time, but expands for anyone who has the courage to renew and writes a new age for themselves.
Instead of surrendering our lives to despair and illness, we champion joy and connect with those we love. Here, the will of a person and their ability to blend love with will, courage, and decision manifest, crafting a new narrative that says: Life is lived more than once whenever we believe that happiness is possible in every moment, that joy does not retire, and that a renewed life can grant us other seasons of happiness, and that the law of “what will people say” is an unjust law that only succeeds in stealing joy from weak hearts. As for hearts that believe in love, they remain resilient against breaking.
Dostoevsky said: If you want to bring a person back to life, place in their path someone who loves them, someone who believes in them, for drugs alone are not enough.
The future holds a more beautiful promise for a better life. Science has renewed damaged cells with stem cells, and injured organs that do not perform their role are replaced with others, and this cannot happen with a soul burdened by worries, living in deprivation, and suffering from loneliness.
Inventions continue to emerge to delay aging, granting humans renewed abilities and a vibrant spirit.
Human determination meets modern science in a single battle against slow death, living a quality life, fighting despair, invoking hope, and renewing feelings, which is akin to “planting a new spirit” that requires someone to nurture it.
Inas El-Degheidy, with her boldness and determination, embodied what science attempts to achieve with its precise equations: that life is renewable, that joy is not confined to a stage, and that a person is stronger than the constraints of age when they believe in themselves and in those they love.
Do not leave it within yourself... act on it and trust in God.


