سُمي الزواج بـ«القفص الذهبي»، لما يحمله من حياة مستقرة مزدهرة في سجن فاخر بين شريكين متحابين مترابطين متعاونين متكاتفين، شريكين تجمعهما المودة والرحمة، والطمأنينة والاطمئنان.
لكن - للأسف - هناك شباب وفتيات يقعون بين أمرين قبيل ولوج ذلك القفص، الأول؛ أمنية بزواج مستقر يبني أسرة قائمة على الدين والقيم، والثاني؛ خوف من فقد الحرية المتعود عليها.
أغلب الهاربين من «القفص الذهبي» لا يرغبون في تحمل المسؤولية، إنما يريدون الحرية الفردية فيقاتلون من أجلها.. يظنون أن البيت والأسرة والزوجة والأبناء عبء لا يستطيعون تحمله، مع أن أكثرهم يملكون الإمكانات المادية والمجتمعية للزواج وإكمال «نصف الدين».
أقول لمثل هؤلاء: إن هذا القفص ليس مُقيداً للحرية كما تزعمون، إنما جنة خضراء لشريكين يتشاركان في زواج متناغم يحيطه خوفُ الله، وحفاظٌ على القيم، وتمسكٌ بالمعايير، وثقة بالشريك، وعطاء متبادل.. إنه ذلك الاختيار الذي يبدأ بنيّة صادقة وشفافة، لبناء أسرة ذات قيم عُليا تساهم في تطور وبناء المجتمع.
إذن، فإن الزواج الواعي القائم على الاختيار لا الاحتياج هو من يبدد تلك المخاوف، ويساهم في إيجاد شراكة ناجحة بين شخصين؛ معنوياً وعاطفياً وروحياً وجسدياً.. شراكة تستمر طوال العمر، في عمقها أبناء يتعلمون ويكبرون ويخدمون المجتمع والوطن.
تابع قناة عكاظ على الواتساب
ندى عبدالعزيز الجهني
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مدربة جودة الحياة والعلاقات والأسرة
The marriage is referred to as the "golden cage," due to the stable and prosperous life it offers in a luxurious prison between two loving, interconnected, cooperative, and supportive partners, united by affection and mercy, tranquility and reassurance.
However - unfortunately - there are young men and women who find themselves caught between two things before entering that cage: the first is the desire for a stable marriage that builds a family based on religion and values, and the second is the fear of losing the freedom they are accustomed to.
Most of those fleeing from the "golden cage" do not wish to bear responsibility; rather, they want individual freedom and fight for it. They believe that home, family, wife, and children are burdens they cannot bear, even though most of them possess the material and social means for marriage and completing "half of their religion."
I say to such individuals: This cage is not a constraint on freedom as you claim, but rather a green paradise for partners who share a harmonious marriage surrounded by the fear of God, preservation of values, adherence to standards, trust in each other, and mutual giving. It is that choice that begins with a sincere and transparent intention to build a family with high values that contributes to the development and construction of society.
Thus, conscious marriage based on choice rather than need is what dispels those fears and contributes to creating a successful partnership between two people; emotionally, spiritually, and physically... A partnership that lasts a lifetime, with children at its core who learn, grow, and serve the community and the nation.
However - unfortunately - there are young men and women who find themselves caught between two things before entering that cage: the first is the desire for a stable marriage that builds a family based on religion and values, and the second is the fear of losing the freedom they are accustomed to.
Most of those fleeing from the "golden cage" do not wish to bear responsibility; rather, they want individual freedom and fight for it. They believe that home, family, wife, and children are burdens they cannot bear, even though most of them possess the material and social means for marriage and completing "half of their religion."
I say to such individuals: This cage is not a constraint on freedom as you claim, but rather a green paradise for partners who share a harmonious marriage surrounded by the fear of God, preservation of values, adherence to standards, trust in each other, and mutual giving. It is that choice that begins with a sincere and transparent intention to build a family with high values that contributes to the development and construction of society.
Thus, conscious marriage based on choice rather than need is what dispels those fears and contributes to creating a successful partnership between two people; emotionally, spiritually, and physically... A partnership that lasts a lifetime, with children at its core who learn, grow, and serve the community and the nation.


