«الانفتاح» ليس عاملاً وحيداً للعزوف عن الزواج، فتأثيره يعتمد على كيفيه فهمه وتطبيقه في الحياة الشخصية والمجتمعية، ولذلك أجيب على الاستفهام: كيف يمكن أن يؤدي الانفتاح إلى العزوف عن الزواج؟ بالنقاط الخمس التالية:
أولاً: تغير الأولويات؛ فمع زيادة الفرص التعليمية والمهنية والسفر، أصبح الكثير يفضل التركيز على تطوير ذاته بدلاً من الزواج المبكر.
ثانياً: رفض القيود التقليدية؛ فالانفتاح جعل البعض يرفض الزواج التقليدي الذي يفرض أدواراً محددة على الرجل والمرأة.
ثالثاً: توفر بدائل للعلاقات؛ ففي بعض المجتمعات أدى الانفتاح إلى انتشار العلاقات غير الرسمية، مما جعل البعض يرى الزواج التزاماً غير ضروري.
رابعاً: زيادة معايير الاختيار؛ فالانفتاح جعل الناس أكثر وعياً بحقوقهم ومتطلباتهم، مما رفع سقف التوقعات من الشريك، وبالتالي صعوبة إيجاد الشخص المناسب.
خامساً: الخوف من الفشل والطلاق؛ فمع الاطلاع على تجارب الآخرين عبر وسائل الإعلام و(السوشيال ميديا)، أصبح البعض أكثر حذراً من الزواج بسبب ارتفاع معدلات الطلاق والمشاكل الزوجية.
لكن السؤال الأهم: هل الانفتاح دائماً سبب سلبي؟.. والجواب: ليس بالضرورة؛ ففي بعض الحالات يساعد على بناء علاقات صحية واعية، إذ يختار الشاب الزواج عن قناعة لا نتيجة ضغوط اجتماعية، كما أنه يمكن أن يشجع على تكوين زيجات قائمة على التفاهم والاحترام المتبادل بدلاً من بعض الزيجات التقليدية القائمة على العادات فقط.
خلاصة القول:
«الانفتاح» قد يكون سبباً في عزوف البعض عن الزواج، لكنه في المقابل يمنح الأفراد فرصة لاختيار ما يناسبهم بحرية ووعي أكبر.
تابع قناة عكاظ على الواتساب
عزة الغامدي
مستشارة العلاقات الأسرية والتنمية البشرية
Azzah.m.alghamdi@hotmail.com
“Openness” is not the sole factor in the reluctance to marry; its impact depends on how it is understood and applied in personal and societal life. Therefore, I answer the question: How can openness lead to reluctance to marry? with the following five points:
First: Changing priorities; with the increase in educational and professional opportunities and travel, many prefer to focus on self-development rather than early marriage.
Second: Rejection of traditional constraints; openness has led some to reject traditional marriage, which imposes specific roles on men and women.
Third: Availability of alternatives to relationships; in some societies, openness has led to the spread of informal relationships, making some view marriage as an unnecessary commitment.
Fourth: Increased selection criteria; openness has made people more aware of their rights and requirements, raising the expectations from a partner, and thus making it harder to find the right person.
Fifth: Fear of failure and divorce; with exposure to others' experiences through media and social media, some have become more cautious about marriage due to rising divorce rates and marital problems.
But the most important question is: Is openness always a negative cause? The answer is: Not necessarily; in some cases, it helps build healthy, conscious relationships, as young people choose to marry out of conviction rather than social pressure. It can also encourage the formation of marriages based on mutual understanding and respect rather than some traditional marriages based solely on customs.
In summary:
“Openness” may be a reason for some to shy away from marriage, but on the other hand, it gives individuals the opportunity to choose what suits them with greater freedom and awareness.
First: Changing priorities; with the increase in educational and professional opportunities and travel, many prefer to focus on self-development rather than early marriage.
Second: Rejection of traditional constraints; openness has led some to reject traditional marriage, which imposes specific roles on men and women.
Third: Availability of alternatives to relationships; in some societies, openness has led to the spread of informal relationships, making some view marriage as an unnecessary commitment.
Fourth: Increased selection criteria; openness has made people more aware of their rights and requirements, raising the expectations from a partner, and thus making it harder to find the right person.
Fifth: Fear of failure and divorce; with exposure to others' experiences through media and social media, some have become more cautious about marriage due to rising divorce rates and marital problems.
But the most important question is: Is openness always a negative cause? The answer is: Not necessarily; in some cases, it helps build healthy, conscious relationships, as young people choose to marry out of conviction rather than social pressure. It can also encourage the formation of marriages based on mutual understanding and respect rather than some traditional marriages based solely on customs.
In summary:
“Openness” may be a reason for some to shy away from marriage, but on the other hand, it gives individuals the opportunity to choose what suits them with greater freedom and awareness.


